Hi love!
It’s day five of our #GoodVibesGifting and I’m super excited to announce the 8 winners in a few days. I know you are excited to know too but before we do that, let’s get to know each other more. Hope that you will be back here often to connect together after this Good Vibes Gifting ends. I love learning about all of you and it opens my life’s perspective so much. Thank you again for being a part of our Good Vibes Tribe.
If you missed my Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, and Day 4 posts, feel free to check them out and share your stories there. If you want to know more details on how to be a part of it, head over to this post, read through the first section of the post to learn about how to join. 🙂
FALL/ WINTER OUTFIT IDEAS
Bringing the classy on today in this post because I ‘m going to talk about Faux Fur. Don’t you love the texture of it? Not only is it beautiful, adds style to the simple outfit, it’s also a good type of textile that keeps you warm. The only concern I have is that it might be a little dusty if you haven’t worn it for a while. I suggest putting a garment bag over to help protect your cloth and keep the dust away.
One tip I have when you decide to clean your faux fur coat, you should hand wash it with cold water and gentle detergent. Let it drip dry indoor. Once it’s dry, you can use a soft bristle brush to brush the fur to keep it smooth and fluff.
My look today will be a perfect look if you have your last minute Christmas party at your office. You know me, I love adding some pops of red to add a holiday feel to the look and you can use this trick too.
I’m wearing my old bodycon cami dress from TopShop, I have a similar one for you here and here. My faux fur is from Missguided. My vegan leather bag is from Melie Bianco and my Vince Camuto heels I got them from Sole Society.
DAY FIVE OF #GOODVIBESGIFTING
Get to know me: I remembered sitting with my then boyfriend in front of one of the teachers and she told my boyfriend not to date me because I have a different family background than him. He came from a great family that has everything but I was opposite. Wow, seriously? How can someone say something like that in front of a teenager and not even think for a second about how I would feel or how it would effect my life. Anyways, we were together for 7 years and ended up not being together after I decided to let him go.
In this crucial world, there are good and bad people, some people always think they know everything, try to make comments and try to bring others down for no reason. As I’m growing older I noticed that these type of people actually have their own issues in life and they don’t know how to fix them. So they put their ideas right into other people’s head, mostly bad advices that they think are good, and end up hurting a lot of people’s feelings.
I have to be honest with you here that I don’t like these type of people at all. I feel like they should keep their mouth shut and try to make their life better. Accept that they have problems, if they couldn’t fix the problems themselves, then they should go get some help from a professional.
When people have a big mouth, they tend to not know that their opinions can affect and make the listener become stressed and/or even ruin their lives. I used to be one who stressed to the max, cried and was just unhappy about myself after listening to someone’s comments. Like the example of my situation I mentioned above. That made me not able to eat, sleep, only felt so bad about my life and thought that maybe I deserved to be alone.
Now I have realized that I should know myself better, love myself better and shouldn’t listen to someone who thinks they know me but in reality have no idea about me and my life. When something like this happens to me now, instead of freaking out and getting upset I would tell that person to stop talking and keep their advice to themselves. Then I will sit back, relax and try to forget about what they said. There’s no need to keep that negativity with me. I still respect people who give me good advice because I know they love me and want the best for me. But I stopped wasting my time to think about those bad comments from people who pretend that they love and understand me.
My suggestion for you today on how to deal with negativity from others is to love and know yourself and try not to care about other people’s negative opinions. It’s your life, you know what’s best for you and what will make you happy. Stop stressing out because that will ruin your health and you don’t want that.
Question for you today:
How do you normally deal with negative people?
I’m looking forward to reading your answer. Don’t forget to stop by my Instagram and answer a fun question there too! Also don’t forget to use #GoodVibesGifting at the end of the your comment so I know you are participating in this contest.
To get a sneak peek on the gifts you might win, watch my InstaStory here.
See you again tomorrow for more stories!
xoxo,
This is a tough question. dealing with a negative person can have so many effects on not just them but you. When I come across someone who is negative i try and talk to them and see what is making them feel that way and if it’s something simple i offer some positive thinking that might make them see the situation a little differently. then there are some negative people that start to change how you are and those people just seem to be people that are so unhappy that no matter how hard you try and be positive they already have a wall up to block anything good. to me those people still need us to be positive and just be who we are and offer to be an ear if they need it. We can’t turn our back on everyone but we can decide who we are going to use our energy on and to what extent. #goodvibesgifting
Your outfit is great and those shoes, i want lol.
Sometimes you can’t avoid negative people. I had a friend who was super negative. Nice girl, but she could drag down the mood of a gathering really quickly, and it was infectious. My other friends and I noticed that we were starting to become chronic complainers when we were with her, and that conversations always deteriorated into negativity. So we made a conscious decision amongst ourselves (without her knowing), not to let her drag us into negativity. We all became suzy sunshines when we were with her, which fixed the problem without hurting her feelings. #GoodVibesGifting
To dealing with the negative people is to start by understanding the reasons for their negativity. I would say almost all negativity has its roots in fears. So better way is trying to understand them with mind positively.
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I limit my contact with them as much as possible. Unfortunately, I am an extremely sensitive person so my feelings get hurt easily. Best for me just not to be around them. #GoodVibesGifting
I do my best to stay away from negative people
I honestly don’t usually let it bother me, unless it’s a friend then I manifest it a bit but I’m pretty quick to let that kind of thing go. I’ve learned that harboring that kind of thing festers too quickly. The best way to deal with negativity is to kill it with kindness!! They never know what to do. #GoodVibesGifting
I pray for them because I know they are so negative because they are very unhappy people #GOODVIBESGIFTING
aVOIDANCE! i HAVE A FAMILY MEMBER THAT IS THE WORST AND i UNFOLLOWED HER ON ALL SOCIAL MEDIA AND DON’T ATTEND FAMILY EVENTS THAT INCLUDE HER. i’M DONE WITH THAT NONSENSE! #GoodVibesGifting
I stay away from them as much as possible.
You are so right that those people are unhappy and spread it outwards. I have a lot of hard things in my life and am a realist, but once I started facing my issues, I lost all that bitterness. Now I love to bring people up and support them. I find the best way to tackle that negativity, if you’re brave enough is to point out exactly how harsh and evil they are being. If that doesn’t work, I tell them ‘I actually don’t care about your opinion and I hope some day you are able to heal from whatever makes you so hateful’ that drives them absolutely nuts but sometimes it’s what they need to reflect on their behaviour. At the end of the day if somebody loves you they will support you and if they are not supporting you, don’t listen to them. A loving, supporting person will give their advice and voice their concerns in a way filled with care for you. Nasty, bitter concerns have no place, you know who you are and what you are doing, ignore them! #GoodVibesGifting
I always believe that you cannot put out fire with fire. You have to kill them with kindness. Give the negative people the benefit of the doubt. We all have bad days. It is possible that they just had a bad day. #GoodvibesGifting
It can be really hard dealing with negative people. I try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but if not possible, sometimes you have to let toxic people go.
I don’t communicate with negative people #GoodVibesGifting
THE ways I choose to deal with negative people VARIES. I’m not sure if it is the best but I have learned that it’s also not worth letting them consume my thoughts or life. Sometimes I have to SET boundaries with myself or them, REMind myself THAT their negativity is theirs them and not Mine, OFFER a positive perspective or attitude, understand that what they are going through Is most likely temporary, OR if needed i keep my interactions to a minimum or not at all if THE negativity is too much to be AROUND on a regular basis. I have noticed that negative people are much easier to deal with if my own self-worth is high. #GoodVibesGifting
I literally ignore them. It’s easy for me. I try not to let it show that it bothers me. #goodvibesgifting
I just understand that if someone is negative, it is something that they are dealing with, not me. So I don’t pay attention to it and try to understand why they are that way. It’s hard and not always the easiest thing to do. #goodvibesgifting
I just try to stay positive around them, hoping it will rub off. If it’s someone close to me being negative then I might address the issue by speaking with them and finding out whats causing them to feel that way. Sometimes talking about what’s bothering us helps. #goodvibesgifting
I usually ignore them or try to help them be more positive in any way that I can. #GoodVibesGifting
The older I get the more I realize the best method for dealing with negative people is not to tolerate them, not to negotiate or try to change them, but to put as much distance as possible between them and myself. #GoodVibesGifting
I ignore them.Address them only when needed #GoodVibesGifting
I try to ignore them and not spend too much time around negative people! #goodvibesgifting
I try not to deal with negative people, I end up just blocking them out of my life. #GoodVibesGifting
I try to limit contact with negative people but it’s something i struggle with